On Monday July 1st 2013 I decided to give up Facebook. Each day I would wake up and the first thing I would do in the morning is write a motivational tip or quote on my news feed. It would be something to the effect of “time to wake up, lets have a great day!” or “everyday you have a choice between the (i) or the (a) you can be f(i)t or f(a)t you choose!” Then I would complete my preparations for the day and go off to train my clients. When I finished my morning schedule, I would go back to see how many likes and comments were on the news feed to see if I reached anyone, or helped him or her out in some way. It was an effective motivational tool, to rev up clients and future customers. Facebook was a way I stayed in contact with family and friends. I had a good following, for a fitness instructor, and my facebook following was very active, but on July 1st I said farewell.
“Why did you leave?”
The day that I said farewell, was the day that my phone blew up. I was literally on the phone all day. People wanted to know why, which is what compelled me to blow about it. Family members called to see if I was okay, other facebook friends called wondering how they were going to get their motivational quotes and tips. I answered these questions best I could. I even heard that some might start a petition to get me back on Facebook, and I reactive my account. All of the concern and attention on this matter is very flattering, and I appreciate my FB Fam, but it was something that needed to be done at the time. For those who I have not had a chance to talk to, or if anyone is curious why a person would get off of Facebook here are my 5 Reasons.
#1 – Customer Service: I wanted to focus more on my customers. Any second I spend on facebook I am not giving a service to my customers. Sure they could benefit on the motivational tips and messages, but it prevented me from upgrading my services. I have only been off of facebook for five days, and since then I have implemented new software for all of my clients called ‘Fitness Generator’. It even benefits non-clients who are looking for workouts. I would receive messages on Facebook from people asking for workout advice. And I would provide an answer, but truthfully it only scratched the surface. So in the end, even though I really wanted to help that person with my answer, I only answered his or her question. I really did not help that person.
#2 - Addiction: I would not say that I was addicted to Facebook where it was detrimental to my life. But if I consider it an addiction if I have a facebook app on my phone, iPad, laptop, and I check it on my computer then I am addicted. If I look at it when I wake up, before I go to bed, and hours in between, then I am addicted. I compared it to alcohol. If I drank alcohol as often as I checked my facebook, then a doctor would agree that I had an alcohol problem. The effects of alcohol are obvious and well documented over decades of research and findings. Facebook is not. So my question to myself was “how is this affecting me?” I did not have a clear-cut answer, but I used the rule of thumb of “anytime you are doing something you are not doing something else.” This post is not an indictment on anyone else that is using Facebook. This is totally a self-assessment of my personal goals, and how I am wired. I have deduced that this is the best move for me, and will enable me to help more people. So if you can read this blog and use it to take your life to the next level then by all means go for it. If this blog does not apply to you and how you are wired then keep it moving.
#3 – Noise: It is great to find out that Susie had twins, or see that one of your old friends finally tied the knot. But the incredible amount of noise that is on Facebook was not worth the joys on Facebook. For example, for every motivational or heart-warming thread I would see 10 threads that were just pure noise. Some would say just don’t pay attention to it, but I was totally mesmerized by it.
“man I’m tired, I can’t wait for the weekend”
“there is a lot of traffic…. I hate traffic”
“I can’t wait to go to the NKOTB concert, woo hoo, we got tickets, hey here is a picture before we go”
“My noise is running” three hours later “my butt is running…”
I could not stop myself from reading these useless messages. And after I read them I would realize that I wasted moments of my life that I would never get back. There was no benefit, rhyme, or reason for me seeing that. I was mesmerized sometimes by my newsfeed. Even if I spent 30 extra seconds a day that eventually adds up. So I had to get away from the noise so I could focus on the things that I needed to do to improve but to also to help my customers.
#4 – My message was watered down: When I first started iChoosefit I had a vision of the world simply choosing the (i) over the (a). There is a deep meaning to the things that I want to convey, and there are still years of work to be done. A big part of iChoosefit is the message. On facebook I can only say and express so much. I may say about 10% of the things that I want to say. Now here is the interesting part. Probably about 10% of my facebook followers will actually switch from facebook and started reading the blogs, online magazines, and take advantage of what iChoosefit has to offer. But I will be able to witness double or even 10 times the results because of the intensity of the message.
#5 – Switching in the putter for a driver. I am not much of a golfer, but I do know that I can hit a ball further with a driver than I could with a putter. Facebook is a putter, where I would putt little cute messages to people, driving them a little further. I want to drive home deeper messages and give more details. I also want to go to more events, and create more outlets that people can plug into. And the only way I can do that is to discontinue some things to create mental space. This one is similar to #4. Understand that Facebook is not my one all be all. I am not only quitting facebook and saying “Okay, I quit facebook, now I can achieve all the things I want in life!” It is a small part of a whole, similar to cleaning out the closet and garage to improve household efficiency.
So there you have it, my official farewell. If someone is thinking about quitting facebook for similar reasons I hope this is something that can strengthen their resolve. This blog is also a self-reminder just in case I think about backsliding and reactivating my account!